When is the right time to have “The Talk” with your child? This week’s topic suggested by Wakefield Patch reader Melissa.
Tasha Schlake Festel
Anyone who knows me knows I’ll talk about pretty much anything, anytime, anywhere… often to my husband’s chagrin. This generally applies to my children as well. However, to be honest, prior to this week’s topic, I hadn’t spent a lot of time considering how I was going to discuss sex with my kids. They’re 5 and 7. Sex isn’t on my radar for impending discussions, unlike “you may not hit in kindergarten” and “there is a difference between being honest and being a jerk.”
While knowledge is power and all that hoo-hah, I’m OK with my children not being too powerful in this particular area until they’re a bit older. I know some people think sex ed should start at birth, but I gotta say, I don’t agree. My kids are young. They are not sheltered, but I do try to control their access to certain information, sex and violence being the top two categories. I will answer questions when asked and do so as honestly and as completely as I think their young minds can process. But I’m not going to have a little sit-down quite yet.
Both kids know about their body parts and how they are different across the genders, they know what is private and what isn’t (however keeping the private things private proves to be difficult for my 5-year-old son sometimes!) they know that no one has a right to touch their bodies without their permission, and my 7-year-old daughter knows the basics about menstruation.