How Men Think
It’s the mystery that has befuddled women for centuries: Why do men behave the way that they do? Neuropsychiatrist Louann Brizendine, claims to have cracked part of that code in her new book, “The Male Brain: a Breakthrough Understanding of How Men and Boys Think.”
While Brizendine concedes that the male and female brains share plenty in common, she whisks readers away on a tour through the male life span and demonstrates how the male brain is profoundly different from the female brain at nearly every stage. The point? Just about every behavior we’ve noticed in men — from a tendency to analyze rather than empathize to the seemingly insatiable desire to ogle female body parts — has a biological basis that Brizendine hopes will lend women a little insight on the men they love.
AOL: In your experience, what’s the one thing that women most often misunderstand about men’s behavior?
Louann Brizendine: Women don’t quite understand some aspects of the psychological and emotional meaningfulness of sex to men. The sexual part of a man’s interaction with a woman is how he expresses and feels love for her. I’m not talking about the kind of hit-and-run sex some men have with women they don’t really have feelings for. But when a man is already falling in love with a woman, sex is what seals the deal.
When a woman sees that look in her man’s eye that means he wants sex, she might be like “Oh, gosh … I’m suddenly tired.” But she probably doesn’t know that if she turns him down in a harsh way, he’ll likely take that to mean that she doesn’t love him — even if it’s just in that moment. Of course, it’s rare that that’s the case — every woman who’s in a relationship has, at some point, said, “Not tonight, honey.” Yet when a man hears that sentence, it’s as if he’s hearing, “I don’t really care for you.”