Cheryl Hemmings: This Mad Cow’s Disease: One Woman’s Journey through PMDD ~ Aug 5

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Cheryl Hemmings
This Mad Cow’s Disease: One Woman’s Journey through PMDD
August 5

7pm ET – 4 pm PT

The Liberty Beacon Media Network

Cheryl Mad Cow 2Join me on Wednesday, August 5th when I interview a young woman who has struggled with PMMD over the course of her life. She has written some brilliant blog post on the subject which caught me attention. PMDD – premenstrual dysphoric disorder – is not just about women – it also affects the men and children in their lives.

Does your partner suffer from PMDD? If so read the blog post excerpted with permission after my guest’s short bio.

 

Cheryl Hemmings is a part time teacher, full time mummy to three beautiful children, wannabe novelist and blogger, who shares her journey through PMDD in the hope that she can inform and entertain others. If she can warm your heart and raise a smile, mission accomplished!

The Ten Commandments Of Being In A Relationship With A PMDD Warrior

July 16, 2015Over the last few years, it has struck me that a lot of my fellow warriors have struggled with their relationships, in particular the one with their husband or partner. Given my newly single status, I’ve been thinking a lot about what is acceptable and what is not, where my boundaries lie, and what my expectations are. So I’ve decided to draw up my ten commandments for men who are either in relationship with a PMDD warrior, or want to enter into one. Here goes.1. Learn to differentiate between PMDD mood swings and real, legitimate reasons for us warriors having bad moods and/or emotional outbursts. We have enough trouble defining that for ourselves, without you throwing doubt at us too. Chances are, if you did something to piss us off, we’re going to be angry, and that is NOTHING to do with our PMDD. If you did it – own it. Take responsibility and make amends, instead of conveniently blaming our condition. In return, we are then more likely to be receptive to the fact that sometimes, yes, it is down to our PMDD, and will own that too.

2. When we ask for help, GIVE IT TO US! Give it freely, not begrudgingly – if you feel resentment about helping us fabulous, loving, fearless women, then you need to question why you are in the relationship. You have no idea how hard it is to reach out to someone, get past the guilt, and ask for their help. So don’t make us feel even worse by giving help with a price tag attached…help because you want to, not because you feel you have to.

3. Having said that, if we ask for space, again please understand and give it to us. This is not about us shutting you out, or loving you less. This is about protecting our own sanity. We have heightened sensitivity, and sometimes this world and all the things in it are too much for us to handle. Why do you think that in our darkest moments suicide is so appealing? It’s not about wanting to leave you, it’s about wanting the sensory and emotional overload to stop for awhile. You giving us space when we need it would be seen as a beautiful gift.

4. Be honest, but be kind with it. Remember that sensitivity? Well, that needs handling with kindness. We don’t expect you not to administer the odd bitter pill, but there’s no harm adding a little sugar coating to it either. So think before you speak and be kind.

5. Whilst we expect you to be kind, we realise that we can be pure evil when in the midst of an episode. We are more than aware of how awful our words can be. The difference is that despite our best efforts, sometimes we are simply incapable of controlling them. You, on the other hand are not afforded the same luxury – unfair, I know, but didn’t your mother ever tell you that life’s unfair? So, bearing that in mind, we need you to develop an extra thick layer of skin, and know that our evil twin comes out to play. I have known husbands to give this twin a nickname, and deal with it that way. Know the difference.

6. When we are suffering from extreme fatigue, it is your job to pick up the mantle, and BE US as best you can. That means taking over childcare, household duties, etc, until we are back on our feet again. We’re not talking show home tidy or anything, but it would be nice not to have to look at an overflowing bin, or a mountain of dishes/laundry waiting to be scaled. Do your bit.

7. When we need to talk, LISTEN. Not that kind of listening that involves your eyes flicking back to Sky Sports/Star Trek/Game of Thrones/(feel free to insert own preference), whilst nodding non comittally. No, we need the kind of listening that involves you asking the right questions, such as, “what can I do to help”, or ” I can’t imagine how you’re feeling, but I’m here for you”, whatever feels real, honest and caring to you. You have no idea of the relief it will bring us just to feel listened to.

8. Help and encourage us to maintain a healthy lifestyle. If you live with us, make sure there is always an opportunity for healthy food to be available, encourage us to take walks, swim, run, anything we enjoy that keeps us fit and healthy. But don’t push us. When we need rest, do that listening thing again, and really listen. And if ice cream of chocolate is needed, we will let you know – there will be no doubt about that.

9. Be aware of our low body image at times. Sometimes, we need you to remind us that we are attractive and sexy women. We may not believe you, but please persevere. Don’t give up telling us, because those words will sometimes be the thing that gets us through a terrible episode. Most of the time, we feel confident enough to tell it to ourselves, but during our occasional dips, all we ask is that you be there to remind us.

10. Be thoughtful. Those kind little gestures, like an unexpected back rub, or takeaway when we’re too tired to cook, or a night out to a movie, will not go unnoticed. And they will make us feel loved, when we can’t see what’s in front of us.

So, these are my ten commandments, for any man who wants to get involved with me, or any other PMDD warrior. Ladies, it would be interesting to know if you feel the same way I do…let me know your thoughts. And one more word to the brave men who take us on…I know we’re not the easiest women in the world to handle, but if you put in the effort, the reward is that you’ll have the love of an incredibly loving, caring, sensitive and passionate woman, who will support you right back through thick and thin. Now surely that’s worth sticking to the ten commandments for, and who knows…we may even share our chocolate and wine with you…

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This interview has been done to offer support, education and awareness for women and their partners. We wanted to highlight the upcoming NAPMDD conference to be held in Denver, CO August 7 – 9, 2015. Although the conference is sold out… you can still register to view the presentations via live stream.

The National Association for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (NAPMDD) is one of the few organizations to provide advocacy, education and support to women with Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD). This rare disorder affects an estimated 2-8% of women of reproductive age. While PMDD is a relatively new diagnosis, there is a long history of women suffering from this condition. Symptoms are similar to those with bipolar disorder which results in a high rate of misdiagnosis and mistreatment. Our goal is to connect with as many women as possible that may currently have PMDD or suspect that they might, guide them to proper care, and provide them with the tools they need to reduce interpersonal conflicts and self-harm.

National Conference on Treatment Options for Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder (PMDD)

Immerse yourself in education, awareness, and support!

Join us in Denver for two days of informative sessions covering all options in PMDD treatments. Featured speakers range from health activists to gynecological surgeons to naturopathic physicians. Learn the latest in symptom management and network with fellow attendees while sharing personal experiences and tips for limiting the effects of Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder.

This conference includes a vast array of industry experts to provide information on the following topics:

  • pharmaceutical and alternative treatments
  • diet and nutrition
  • meditation and mindfulness
  • cervical inflammation
  • interpersonal relationships
  • peer support
  • and more!

 

07.15.15 NAPMDD Conference

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Author: Leslie Carol Botha

Author, publisher, radio talk show host and internationally recognized expert on women's hormone cycles. Social/political activist on Gardasil the HPV vaccine for adolescent girls. Co-author of "Understanding Your Mood, Mind and Hormone Cycle." Honorary advisory board member for the Foundation for the Study of Cycles and member of the Society for Menstrual Cycle Research.