Transform Your Sex Life According to Her Cycle

How you and your spouse can make sex amazing each day of the month.

Hitched Magazine

July 2010


Marriage is a beautiful thing. Building a life together takes dedication, love and daily vigilance to having each other’s back. That said, one of the other amazing things about marriage is having someone to share your body and heart with. A passionate sexuality, and constantly striving to be each other’s fantasy is a key ingredient to a long-term successful and happy marriage.

While we can talk about how to keep life in the bedroom interesting over time, there is something men may not know about their beautiful bride. Have you ever noticed how her libido ebbs and flows, how some nights she really wants you and some nights, well, she needs extra convincing (or she looks at you like, “You’re kidding, right?”). That’s because her libido is controlled by her hormones, which fluctuate on a daily basis depending on where she is in her menstrual cycle. Would you like to have some fair warning about the changes in her hormone levels? Yeah, we thought so!

Here is a task you can do together that will help both of you have some advanced knowledge about her monthly cycle and how it affects her sex drive. Grab a calendar and a red pencil.

Mark the first day of the wife’s period on the calendar as Day 1. Now count out to Day 10 and circle it with your red pencil. On Day 10, she feels great—her estrogen levels are high because her body is getting ready to ovulate, and she’s in the mood for romance. Tonight is about long, slow romantic love making, with candlelight and scented candles. Be sure to nestle her with lots of fluffy pillows, and lift her legs high while rocking her gently and cradling her in your arms.



Author: Leslie Carol Botha

Author, publisher, radio talk show host and internationally recognized expert on women's hormone cycles. Social/political activist on Gardasil the HPV vaccine for adolescent girls. Co-author of "Understanding Your Mood, Mind and Hormone Cycle." Honorary advisory board member for the Foundation for the Study of Cycles and member of the Society for Menstrual Cycle Research.