Are Women’s Orgasms a Natural Response or a Conscious Behavior?

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Love this web site Ways Women Orgasm– and of course, the author of the post is brilliant – for men orgasm signals the end of the ride. For women orgasm is the culmination of the feelings the ride has emoted. Or are they? We all know when we feel the thrill of orgasm… but we also know our learned behavioral response and the verbal response when he/she
rolls off  and asks “Was it good for you?”

Granted we have come a long way in enjoying sex – but we may just need to do some more introspection –
about ‘faking’ or making or orgasms really happen. Not any different than our lives actually. Faking vs. making.

Men are motivated by intercourse not by orgasm

Ways Women Orgasm
September 1, 2014

There is an amazing lack of toler­ance for any discus­sion of sex that does not involve promoting women as the sexual equals (or super­iors) of men. Confident of the full backing of hetero­sexual society women defend their sexual ego against any inform­a­tion that might explain a gap (between expect­a­tion and reality) that they are not even willing to admit exists.

Why should they be offended by an issue that does not concern them? Our society exer­cises a form of volun­tary censor­ship whereby any facts that support the fantasy are promoted while contrary facts are suppressed.

The bravado of women who claim to orgasm with a lover[i], as well as the deri­sion that is poured on women who know that it is not easy, indicate that conscious
beha­viours are involved and not natural responses.

A woman’s exper­i­ence is truly unique when it makes her look good but does nothing to explain the differ­ences in women’s orgasm techniques.

If female orgasm is so ‘natural’ and ‘common’ why is every woman not an expert? Why does a woman not give herself an orgasm? Orgasm has become a special­ised topic that few women are willing to comment on.

Even in this modern age it is suggested that women are too modest or too embar­rassed to talk about sex and orgasm. This is ludicrous. Female orgasm with a lover is the most hotly promoted exper­i­ence of all time!

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Author: Leslie Carol Botha

Author, publisher, radio talk show host and internationally recognized expert on women's hormone cycles. Social/political activist on Gardasil the HPV vaccine for adolescent girls. Co-author of "Understanding Your Mood, Mind and Hormone Cycle." Honorary advisory board member for the Foundation for the Study of Cycles and member of the Society for Menstrual Cycle Research.