Holy Hormones Journal: Colleague, film collaborator and author, Holly Grigg-Spall shares her concerns about birth control and how the pill almost ruined her marriage. Love the sentence at the end where she states that she still loved her husband even when the “pill goggles” came off. Interesting choice of words – however, we need to be aware that synthetic hormones affect our biochemistry. They alter our moods and perceptions. Many other women have come off the pill and realize that they do not even know who their husbands were.. or why they were attracted to them in the first place.
If I said synthetic hormone birth control was like turning you into a robot – would you stop and take notice? But yet, that is what these new generation devices and pills are like. They are suppressing the entire endocrine system by affecting the reproductive hormones. And they also deplete vital nutrients that add to the anxiety and depression that many women suffer from. If those nutrients are not being replaced – there will be a more severe adverse reaction to the synthetic hormones.
Here is something else to chew on – your altered biochemical state – due to any chemicals in foods, drugs, vaccine, makeup, pesticides, insecticides, is then passed on to your offspring along with the epigenetic effects of exposure from three generations before us.
If you feel your personality is being altered by the pill, or any device – that is an adverse reaction. Period.
Why would anyone want to do this to their body? If your partner understood what is going on – why would he even agree to your being on synthetic contraception.
This is a slippery slope for feminists. On one hand, the pill and other synthetic contraceptives have given us great freedom. But the bottom line the pill is altering our physical state and our emotions. What kind of bargain are we making?
Mind Body Green
October 31, 2015
The Pill Almost Ruined My Marriage. Here’s What I Wish More Women Knew About Hormonal Birth Control
The post-wedding period is typically the most popular time for women to stop taking birth control. For most, it’s in hopes of starting a family. For me, it was to save my marriage.
Since meeting my husband four years previously, I had tried three different types of oral contraceptive — and each had side effects that put a tremendous strain on our relationship.
The first pill made me bleed profusely every time we had sex. The second caused me to become jealous and paranoid. We argued — loudly, intensely, emotionally, and often in public. My self-esteem was rock bottom and I lashed out at any perceived slight. The third option was just the final shovel of dirt on my already well-buried libido.
The Pill had driven a wedge between us. I found it was hard to discern my true feelings from those driven by its impact. And we were both exhausted by the cycle of melodrama. I knew this relationship wasn’t going to work if nothing changed.
So, in 2009, after being married for six months, I decided to ditch them completely. That decision saved my marriage.
Now, when I come across articles with various tips about how to improve your relationship, I can’t help but think some of them could be as simple as “step one: ditch the Pill.”
Here are the five ways I found that going off of hormonal birth control improved my own marriage:
1. I feel more present and in control of my emotions.
The psychological side effects of the Pill made me feel both detached from my husband, and attached to what I perceived as insurmountable problems.
Coming off the Pill was like reconnecting with my husband and the world around me at large. Everything seemed to look brighter, smell sweeter, feel better and seem more real.
I’m also free of the cycle of obsessive negative thinking. Disagreements, when they rarely come up, are quickly resolved. I feel a wider range of emotions and feel them more strongly — but they’re more feelings of happiness, bliss, joy, and excitement.